(This talk occurred while we were changing the sheets on my queen-sized bed. Why waste the help?! LOL)
"Did you know that God sort of changes sheets too? The Bible says in Psalm 139:13 that God knit you together in your Mother's womb. When He did, He placed around you a warm red blanket made from my body. Long before you were born, God was knitting a blanket inside me every month, to be ready for a baby just about any time. God does not give new babies all the time, so He removes the first 'blanket' and starts making another one each month. During this time, you may notice Mommy uses special things like diapers to catch the unused blanket. The old blanket is bloody, but it doesn't hurt Mommy when it comes out. " [Usually, anyway! We can talk about THAT later!]
"Long before you are married and ready to be a Mommy, God will start knitting a blanket inside you. If you ever see blood in your panties or when you go to the bathroom, you will know what I mean. Please come tell me about it, and I'll have something very special for you. You are growing up to be such a beautiful young lady, I am looking forward to sharing this special time with you..."
See "The Talk" about the "very special thing" I start preparing when they turn 10...
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I don't remember who MJ is, but I copied this a long time ago off of a MOMS message board:
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The Talk!!!
Posted by MJ on Monday, 1 November 1999 at 7:07 pm
Ladies, this was so-o-o dear!!! It was not *exactly* as I had planned, but it went so well!! I want to share with you what we did, in case you might like to do it this way, too, or perhaps it might spark your own ideas:
I had *planned* on taking her out to eat, then coming back home for hot chocolate & a talk while the boys were out. I wanted to do this last week, but it did not work out that way. However, this is what happened:
My husband was at work and son was out to play, so we had the house all to ourselves. My daughter came to me very quietly and told me about a *problem* she had noticed. After I asked her a few questions (to make sure that this was *it*), I said, "well, come with me, I have some things I want to share with you about this. This is nothing to worry about, in fact, I was thinking this might happen very soon..."
I went to my room and got all the things that I had bought for this occasion, and we sat on the chaise lounge and had our talk.
I had bought an overnight carry-all ( it's hard plastic box, with pretty purple & lavender flowers on it, you use it to put personal items in, it has a mirror and some fold-out compartments) and put everything in it... some things wrapped in gold foil wrapping paper, some just inside a neat little compartment), and as she opened it, and opened each thing, I explained to her what it was for.
The first thing was a small purple women's devotional book, and I talked with her about becoming a godly woman and growing up for the Lord.
Next was a large, three-ring binder with a big fluffy kitten on it and pretty stationery inside. I explained that this is our Mother-Daughter journal to share *just* with each other... in which she could share her thoughts with me, ask questions that she didn't want the *guys* to know about, and discuss things that are on her mind, and that she could tell me in the journal whether she wanted to talk about it, or just have me write back.
Next were some of the compartments which held different personal care items, like deodorant, pretty colored razors, I had given her some bubble bath & perfume, some facial items to talk about acne, tweezers, bras, and of course, pads.
With each item, we discussed the stages of growth and what we ladies do about it (razors, underarm & leg hair growth, etc.).
The last thing she opened was a small, sample-sized box of Russell Stover Chocolates (important to any woman at *that* time)!!
I also prayed for her, and it just all went so well!!!
She took her little box and all her little presents and went to her room to *try them out*!!! She ate the chocolates while reading, she put the pad in place (and called me for a little added instruction) and has been trying out her new bras (and asking a few questions here and there), and looking things over! I explained to her that *when* the time comes to shave or pluck her eyebrows, I will help her because it's a little tricky the first few times.
We did not talk about physicals relations, because she is completely unaware of that aspect yet, and it has not occurred to her to ask me about that yet. That talk will come later. She did ask about the womb and how babies come *out* of there, and I explained her anatomy more in detail to her than what I had previously.
All in all, it was a wonderful talk, and I hope you ladies have an equally wonderful experience with your daughters!
